Is this the right guy for you?

Is He  the  right  guy  for  you..............

Hey girls, how many of you read through these ‘Checking out your boyfriend or husbands EQ (emotional quotient), be honest please. Most of us I assume, now to share with you  gals  what I experienced once when I undertook this exercise once.

I came across this quiz, ”Find out if your man the right guy for you”. I usually discard these spouse /partner assessment and statistics quizzes, I feel one cannot categorize individuals through a common set of eligibility criteria; not  for different  people with myriad personalities... (but I decided to take this one to kill time, I  was  travelling alone by  train). Besides, I also feel true love and life is much more than a few sweet mushy love words spoken. These ideas of teenage mills and boons romance do not measure up to the challenges partners face in setting up or working on a relationship. That said, every woman (including me) loves being told she is loved by her man, when he says so, it feels like a cosy caress to the heart.

Typically the quiz started with, how many times does he say “I love u”?  I  scored a Zero on this first oneL.

Does he come home late often, saying he’s in office but his cell is not reachable... yeah that happens a couple of times but I know my man too well, he is busy.

“What was the special anniversary gift he bought you? Was it of your choice.... La zilch again......

This isn’t what I wanted to do in the first place, but it did get me thinking and what I discovered was more than just love...

My guy (husband) doesn’t say “I love u” ever but he does much more than that, he detects my moods in a jiffy. The upside of this is I get bed tea and breakfast in bed on weekends...   The downside is I can’t hide a single emotion/ fact from him even if I want to sometimes.............

He stood by me, helped me through each stage of both my caesareans and post partum blues. While he’s never got me a diamond ring , he made a  slogan  for me that read “you bring back the sunshine in my life” welcoming me back home from hospital with our first born!! :)

 He taught me car driving with the utmost patience anybody can imagine. When he discovered my reluctance to be in water, he held my hand and gently led me to the deeper waters, remaining by my side as I swam. He was reassuringly close to me when we went snorkelling in the South China Sea.  

  Next question,” How often does he compliment your looks?” Uh-oh I wish I hadn’t got into this.....

When going out for an event, I   would ask the typical wife question,” how do I look?”  

Over the years I have stopped asking him this. There were two standard answers,

 A) without  even a   glance  he’d  say,”  if  there  was  anything  wrong I  would’ve  told  you” or

 B)”Horrible , how  can  u  be  wearing the  same colour  from head  to toe and  your  hair  is  a mess”.

 Having said so, the next thing I  hear is him introducing me at the function with,” the most beautiful woman here, my wife”. I would feel so embarrassed!

 He stands by my decisions  about our  children  and related  stuff,  especially in  front  of them(We  might  disagree  about  it in private ).

We opine differently on a range of issues, Of course we have our share of disagreements, we are a regular couple. There are arguments, cold wars and,” I’m not talking to you” times....

But  whenever I’m  down with  any of  these  I  try  and  remind  myself  of  the   good  times spent together, of the  unsolicited strong support I  got from my  hubby...

 It is good to fight, express anger, venting all out is healthy too.

 

But we must also count our blessings for what we have...

So, going back to those quizzes, one realizes, they do not take into account all these situations and emotions, so all you love-bug-bitten girls out there, don’t just go by what these quizzes ask you.As for me the quiz achieved what it was designed for.... to reiterate love... Think for yourself carefully rather than acting in haste.